For some reason, we usually only emphasize what we see as negative aspects of ourselves—“I need to lose weight,” “I need to eat less,” “I need to start exercising.” Such proclamations reinforce the belief “I’m no good” and compound the guilt we feel if we believe we’ve “failed” once again.
Why do we continually do this to ourselves? Why do we choose to abuse ourselves in this fashion? I support anyone’s desire to improve their health and wellbeing. I also believe that in order to do so we must break this be-hard-on-yourself, beat-yourself-up cycle. How can we accomplish this?
One simple way to begin is by examining your routines. We are creatures of habit. Habitual behaviors help simplify our lives. For example, do you ever think, “I don’t remember how I got here,” after you pull into a parking space at work? Yet our autopilot modes can result in unconscious patterns that can also unknowingly drain our energy. One way to combat this is to pause and take a different point of view.
Step outside of your comfort zone and ask yourself if your habits are beneficial, or do they hindering you in any way. Ask: “What is and isn’t working for me in my life?” “Where do I feel change is needed?” “What would I love doing?” Even inquire, “Why do I want this?” and “Am I ready for it?” Discover the real reasons for your desire to change.
You’ll begin your process of transformation just by inquiring—don’t force answers. They will emerge on their own and when they do, use them to spark your personal transformation for achieving your optimal health and wellness. If answers don’t immediately arise, don’t stress—just enjoy the process.
Your desire for change must resonate within you, be specific, connect with things you love, and not done out of any sense of obligation to others. They should also fit the current realities of your life; the last thing you need in your life is additional stress.
Each choice you make, even a small one, will take you out of your habit mode and create a ripple-effect touching all areas of your life. Less is more. Begin by choosing one area of your life to change such as an aspect of either your mind, body, or self.
Be sure your present thinking reflects the future you desire. For example, switch from saying: “I want to lose 25 pounds and weigh 115 pounds,” to immediately stating: “I weigh 115 pounds.” Notice the change in your being with just this simple shift. You’ll be breaking your habitual thought processes while creating new mental patterns and connections.
Also, most people do not achieve their desired results because they are not specific with their goals. For example, don’t just say: “I’m going to exercise.” Be specific—“I’m going to exercise so I can play with my children/grandchildren,” or “I’m going to exercise so I can complete a 5K run.”
Then, begin easily and realistically. You’ll have a better chance for success if you discover what works for you, how it connects with your values, and how it reflects your purpose.